Happy New Year to All

Life is much shorter..even than a Year!!

One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching. 

 How quickly another year has come to its end.....soon we will start living the year 2013..and perhaps we will forget about all the personal mile-stones which 2012 brought..So many resolutions were broken or discarded.When we look back to take an account of those soon-to-be-gone 12 months,we often left with a funny smile only to realize how little we could live,work,enjoy or help..

we are often so preoccupied with useful and useless jobs equally that a whole year passes by but we hardly care..how many of us maintain a yearly personal-growth account?"Life is short" ,this idea never get chance to sink deep into our understanding..may be due to lack of planning,desire or other regular jobs.eventually another year slips through our finger.That last day is always enjoyed and  resolutions are made just to be broken again...

The sense of time  is not equal to every one..some people tends to think  that 1 minute is like an hour,and some people might think just opposite...this difference is reflected on their accomplishments..hence time management is a MUST-HAVE resolution this year so that we can use time in an optimum way...

this game I learned many years ago..lets play it in our mind..(visualize!!)

Take a 10 inches of a ribbon
Suppose its equal to 100 years

A person lives up to 70 years,averagely.
 if 30 years =3 inches
 cut off the 3 inches from that ribbon.
now you have 7 inches of ribbon left.

averagely a person takes 20 years   to complete his studies and choose a goal.
if 20 years=2 inches
cut off 2 inches from the 7 inches ribbon
so 5 inches are left

we have to count 8 hours of sleep too!!
we sleep 1/3 of our life...
if we have 50 years left then
50/3=16.66
lets make it 17

50-17=33
So we have 33 years left.But dont forget that within that life ,we might have major illnesses or old age related problems as well as few unforeseen troubles. if these  take off 2 years from our life then we are left with 31years.

And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.-Abraham Lincoln








so we have got these priceless 31years!!we have these years to prove ourselves to the world,build a future and leave a legacy behind.A famous quote goes like:"every man dies-not everyman really lives",now I can understand the meaning more than ever.People might misinterpret leaving-a-legacy part.Being remembered as a kind,honest, helping person is enough of a legacy to leave behind.

lets enjoy the year till it lasts but when the Sun rise above the horizon,let us understand this fact that we have so much to offer and we owe it to our society and Earth.
Advanced Happy new year to all!
see you next year!!

how well do you cope with Traumatic Life Events??

Many times people with a chronic illness or who have had traumatic experience talk not only about the negative things,but also of the positive things that have happened to them as a result of their illness or experience.Below is a list of some of these positive things .On scale of 0 ( this did not happen to me) to 4 ( I am experienced a great of  this) indicates  the degree to which each occurred in your life as a result of your illness or traumatic experience.

---------1.        I learned to look at things in a more positive way

---------2.        I learned that I am stronger than I thought I was

---------3.        I learned to be more optimistic

---------4.        I realized how much my family cared for me

---------5.        I learned to be more confident in myself

---------6.        I learned to approach my life more calmly

---------7.        I have more compassion for others

---------8.        Now I can handle difficulties

---------9.        I learned to work through my problems and not to give up

---------10.    My relationship with my family became more important

---------11.    I learned to find more meaning in life

---------12.    my faith in God increased

---------13.    My relationship with my family became more meaningful

---------14.    my life has more meaning and satisfaction

---------15.    I learned to appreciate the strength of others who have difficult times

---------16.    I learned to live for today ,because you never know what will happen tomorrow

---------17.    My confidence in God increased

---------18.    Now I know that I can count on my friends in difficult times

---------19.    I learned to deal better with uncertainty

---------20.    I learned to be more present

Scoring

To find your Thriving score ,simply add together your responses to the twenty items.

Norms

Score       Percentile

74            85

67            70

60            50

53            30

46            15

…One of the most interesting and one of the most hopeful,discoveries these researchers have made it that so many people do experience positive changes when they struggle with adversaries…..this says something remarkable about the human spirit,that so many people can find meaning in their lives when their illness or trauma must seem capricious.If you are among the many people who cants find anything positive in life shortly after traumatic experience, you should not give up.we know this line of invaluable research that as long as people are persistent, and as long as they they continue to struggle with the meaning of their experience they are likely to find the meaning…for some fortunate few,this process may be both sudden and spontaneous , while for others it will require much effort and time.While the pain may never completely disappear,people can find a new sense of strength and renewed appreciation for life as long as they are willing to make the effort.

By Louis Janda,Ph.d

Now You are Thinking:change your thinking....Transform your Life

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Evaluate your blindspots!

Half the work that is done in this world is to make things appear what they are not!!
-E.R.Beadle

 

The planet Neptune never failed to intrigue me.I personally believe no trait is good or bad, its the situation that make them so.It depends on the personal perceptions also.

Even if its not afflicted ,still it can produce some limiting situations for us.
You can take How strong is your Neptune test from Donna's Blog.This post has also an introduction about true neptunian characters.

Neptune is the eighth and farthest planet from the Sun in the Solar System. It is the fourth-largest planet by diameter and the third-largest by mass. Because of its great distance from the Sun, Neptune's outer atmosphere is one of the coldest places in the Solar System, with temperatures at its cloud tops approaching −218 °C (55 K).Its Gas Gient.

This mysterious planet can create a lot of confusion in native’s life as well as it can bless us with  creativity or imagination.But if this planet is afflicted in a chart it can produce some bad results too.So wherever our natal Neptune resides it affects that house .

Some well known Neptune traits are impressioanlble, dependency,gullible,vague,sensitivity,tendency towards day dream,deceitful, too trusting,boundaries issues,codependency ,victim-savior mentality.But in my opinion the most unique trait of Neptune is to create a BLINDSPOT where it resides.This means it keeps us away form the reality.often we see things through the rose tinted glass,or the way we want to see them.This is nothing but self-undoing or sabotaging ourselves.We have to guard against this self-deception.This world is full of traps where we often get tangled up but we should always be in a clear terms with ourselves.

Here I would like to take you to the Donna’s blog,where she has posted few very valuable articles on Neptune.In order to know your Neptune and where you stand with it,you should consult these  articles.

22 articles on Neptune.

VICTIM mentality :"Like all Neptunians, the unevolved type has a grand dream, but dwells in fantasy, confusing the vision with the manifestation as though it were already so. Rather than working diligently, these dreamers have a million excuses for why the Great American Novel never got written or why that call from Hollywood never came. They blame all those others who didn’t understand or support them.

Unevolved Neptunians regard themselves as victims, helpless to better their situation. They surrender their power to others or to their addictions, health problems, overwhelming life obstacles, or self-defeating patterns. They tend to be in denial about what is going on in such situations, blaming others for their difficulties rather than taking responsibility for their own actions and choices. They act out the victim role, forever looking for that knight in shining armor to rescue them or lift them out of their too-tedious reality"

"CODEPENDENCY: it is an addiction to an addict or to some other ­person. The obsession with trying to help or change that ­individual grows in strength until it takes over your life,­ giving you no peace. It doesn't change just because that person ­leaves, but instead can become a pattern carried over to new ­relationships. Melody Beattie, in her best-seller, Codependent No ­More, defined it in this way: "A codependent is one who has let­ another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed­ with controlling that person's behavior"

1) Codependent people will hide or even change their identity­ and feelings in  order to please and be close to others.

2) A sense of responsibility for meeting other people's needs comes first for codependents, even at the expense of their own needs. 

3) Low self-esteem and very little sense of self to begin with is common to most codependents.

4) Compulsions and addictions drive codependents and keep them from having to confront their deeper feelings.

5) Just like alcoholics and other addictive personalities, codependents hide behind denial and have a distorted­  relationship to will power."

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Donna-cunnhgam.

Another trait of Neptune is ESCAPISM.These people often take an escape route when confronted with reality.They just tend to avoid some anxiety buried in the subconscious.But if they don't face this anxiety-provoking issue and take initiative to mitigate this problem,this can become a trouble.They often look for an easy way-out.Over active imagination also dont let them deal with their reality or self examination.Thats why often their dreams and goals don't become their reality.it leads to heart-ache.They should believe that most part of the life is based on cause and effect principle.Facing life will eventually give these people more control over their life.

So lets Take these Quizes
codependacy quiz 
Boundary Quiz

Some Attitudes.....

if you dont have the competitive  advantage, dont compete.
-Jack Welch

 if you are interested,you will do what convenient , if your are committed,you will do what ever it takes.
-John Assaraf

its always impossible until its done
-Anonymous

life is not a matter of holding good cards but some times playing a poor hand well.
-Jack London

if you dont like something ,change it.if you cant change it , change your attitude.
-Maya Angelou

Tough time never last, tough people do.
-Robert Schuller
 

Entrepreneur Quotes

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these are some quotes from my collections, dedicated to all wanna-be entrepreneurs out there....

whatever you are thinking think bigger.
-Tony Hsieh

you got to getup every morning with determination if you are going to go to bed with satisfaction.
-George Lorimer

its never too late to be who you might have been.
-G.Elliot

when you innovate you 've got to be prepared for people telling you that you are nuts.
-Larry  Elisson,Founder of Oracle

the middle of every successful project looks like a disaster .
-Rosabeth Moss kanter

if you dont have the competitive  advantage, dont compete.
-Jack Welch

you have to learn the rules of the game,and you have to play better than anyone else.
-Albert Einstein

if you are interested,you will do what convenient , if your are committed,you will do what ever it takes.
-John Assaraf

its always impossible until its done
-Anonymous

life is not a matter of holding good cards but some times playing a poor hand well.
-Jack London

go confidently towards your dreams,live the life you have imagined.
-H.D.Thoreau

nobody who ever gave his best regretted it.
-George Hala

whenever you see a successful business ,someone once made a courageous decision.
P.Drucker

Self-Help Quotes

failure is success if we learn from it.
-Malcolm Forbes

Dreams are illustrations from the book your soul is writing about you.
-Marsha Norman

Faith is taking the first step even when you dont see the whole staircase.
-Martin Luther King Jr

if you dont like something ,change it.if you cant change it , change your attitude.
-Maya Angelou

the best way to predict the future is to create it.
- P.Drucker

All life is an experiment.The more experiment you make the better.
-Ralph .W.Emerson

its not length of your life,but your depth of your life.
-R.W.Emerson

Tough time never last, tough people do.
-Robert Schuller

Faith is a passionate intuition.
-William Wordsworth

believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.
-Cynthia Karsey.

Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken

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