When Personal Tragedy Comes

Greetings

"Life's tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late" 

Nobody in this World can tell that they have escaped tragedy.Everybody ,in some point of time has faced it.But often we don't understand how to get it over with or how to deal with it on our own.Personal tragedies can be of various types ,including losings a job or partner.Often there are few tragic incidents which we cant share with people.It eats us silently.Its said that time is a great healer.But when tragedy strikes we are left so hurt and confused that waiting to be get healed naturally  is out of question.We need to take some measures which will help it heal faster.

So don't suffer silently.I would like to share few words of  M.R.Kopmeyer on this.

"ADMIT
you must admit that tragic loss has happened.There must be temporary relief in dumb disbelief.But the anesthesia of disbelief wares off in confrontation with fact and encourages withdrawal from reality in vain attempt to sustain escape.

There are mental danger in playing make-believe with tragedy.Its better to face tragedy frankly,squarely ,honestly.There is relief and strength in the courage to meet reality boldly and openly ,to Admit that waht is so ,Is so.

Only when you have taken the first step, admit ,is it possible to obtain the merciful relief of the next step toward peace of mind and spirit.

ACCEPT
By fully admitting your tragic loss,you open the way to what probably is the greatest and most rewarding of all mental ,emotional and spiritual powers: ACCEPTANCE.

Acceptance if the inevitable is one of the man kind's greatest achievements,In recognizing the human in ability to control all circumstances,Acceptance ,gives man mastery over the consequences of those events he can not control.

and so with personal tragedy.Complete ACCEPTANCE of it --with humility and submission-quietly ,but surely,gives you mastery of survival and inner resources to deal with whatever consequences may result.

No one is given a burden without ,at the same time , being given the strength to bear it.

Willingness to Accept the inevitable misfortunes in life transcends almost every other human power.Its useless to fight the inevitable or to reject it or curse it."..

"it is so,It cant be otherwise"

We can deal with such finality only through acceptance as philosopher William James advised - Be willing to have it so,Acceptance of what has happened is the first step of overcoming the consequence of any misfortune.


ADAPT
This gives  validity to admitting and accepting -it is the 3rd dimension which imparts substance ,otherwise there remains only one passive state of mind, helpful as that is ,but noting more.

..the ego-involvement in making whatever changes are necessary to adjust completely to all of the circumstances  of your misfortune, which excludes the imminent possibility of withdrawal.You must be come willing and totally involved in what ever adjustment are necessary, because withdrawal from reality soon becomes a severe mental illness

Adapting must come from within.your adjustment should be total and it must be yours.It must bear the hallmark of your courage ,your determination ,your decision.

ACT

The ultimate achievement in dealing with consequence of tragedy is to act at once leaving the door which fate forever closed and actively seeking the open door which faith promises ."Seek and ye shall find"

.....you must seek your own channel of activity .. find your own cause...and then put your own entair self to it.. and mental and physical work will relieve and replace emotional tension ,anxiety and grief.

The power is provided by the very act of your doing because the law of life that ,if you act in faiths as you do the thing ,you will receive the power

Thus your capability to survive and then surmount personal tragedy finds its power-source in your consummate faith that you are a part of infinity which being total perfection, can harbor no problems -including yours and so , with unlimited resource, absolves your problems when you have the wisdom and faith to release them."