Happy New Year to All

Life is much shorter..even than a Year!!

One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching. 

 How quickly another year has come to its end.....soon we will start living the year 2013..and perhaps we will forget about all the personal mile-stones which 2012 brought..So many resolutions were broken or discarded.When we look back to take an account of those soon-to-be-gone 12 months,we often left with a funny smile only to realize how little we could live,work,enjoy or help..

we are often so preoccupied with useful and useless jobs equally that a whole year passes by but we hardly care..how many of us maintain a yearly personal-growth account?"Life is short" ,this idea never get chance to sink deep into our understanding..may be due to lack of planning,desire or other regular jobs.eventually another year slips through our finger.That last day is always enjoyed and  resolutions are made just to be broken again...

The sense of time  is not equal to every one..some people tends to think  that 1 minute is like an hour,and some people might think just opposite...this difference is reflected on their accomplishments..hence time management is a MUST-HAVE resolution this year so that we can use time in an optimum way...

this game I learned many years ago..lets play it in our mind..(visualize!!)

Take a 10 inches of a ribbon
Suppose its equal to 100 years

A person lives up to 70 years,averagely.
 if 30 years =3 inches
 cut off the 3 inches from that ribbon.
now you have 7 inches of ribbon left.

averagely a person takes 20 years   to complete his studies and choose a goal.
if 20 years=2 inches
cut off 2 inches from the 7 inches ribbon
so 5 inches are left

we have to count 8 hours of sleep too!!
we sleep 1/3 of our life...
if we have 50 years left then
50/3=16.66
lets make it 17

50-17=33
So we have 33 years left.But dont forget that within that life ,we might have major illnesses or old age related problems as well as few unforeseen troubles. if these  take off 2 years from our life then we are left with 31years.

And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.-Abraham Lincoln








so we have got these priceless 31years!!we have these years to prove ourselves to the world,build a future and leave a legacy behind.A famous quote goes like:"every man dies-not everyman really lives",now I can understand the meaning more than ever.People might misinterpret leaving-a-legacy part.Being remembered as a kind,honest, helping person is enough of a legacy to leave behind.

lets enjoy the year till it lasts but when the Sun rise above the horizon,let us understand this fact that we have so much to offer and we owe it to our society and Earth.
Advanced Happy new year to all!
see you next year!!

how well do you cope with Traumatic Life Events??

Many times people with a chronic illness or who have had traumatic experience talk not only about the negative things,but also of the positive things that have happened to them as a result of their illness or experience.Below is a list of some of these positive things .On scale of 0 ( this did not happen to me) to 4 ( I am experienced a great of  this) indicates  the degree to which each occurred in your life as a result of your illness or traumatic experience.

---------1.        I learned to look at things in a more positive way

---------2.        I learned that I am stronger than I thought I was

---------3.        I learned to be more optimistic

---------4.        I realized how much my family cared for me

---------5.        I learned to be more confident in myself

---------6.        I learned to approach my life more calmly

---------7.        I have more compassion for others

---------8.        Now I can handle difficulties

---------9.        I learned to work through my problems and not to give up

---------10.    My relationship with my family became more important

---------11.    I learned to find more meaning in life

---------12.    my faith in God increased

---------13.    My relationship with my family became more meaningful

---------14.    my life has more meaning and satisfaction

---------15.    I learned to appreciate the strength of others who have difficult times

---------16.    I learned to live for today ,because you never know what will happen tomorrow

---------17.    My confidence in God increased

---------18.    Now I know that I can count on my friends in difficult times

---------19.    I learned to deal better with uncertainty

---------20.    I learned to be more present

Scoring

To find your Thriving score ,simply add together your responses to the twenty items.

Norms

Score       Percentile

74            85

67            70

60            50

53            30

46            15

…One of the most interesting and one of the most hopeful,discoveries these researchers have made it that so many people do experience positive changes when they struggle with adversaries…..this says something remarkable about the human spirit,that so many people can find meaning in their lives when their illness or trauma must seem capricious.If you are among the many people who cants find anything positive in life shortly after traumatic experience, you should not give up.we know this line of invaluable research that as long as people are persistent, and as long as they they continue to struggle with the meaning of their experience they are likely to find the meaning…for some fortunate few,this process may be both sudden and spontaneous , while for others it will require much effort and time.While the pain may never completely disappear,people can find a new sense of strength and renewed appreciation for life as long as they are willing to make the effort.

By Louis Janda,Ph.d

Now You are Thinking:change your thinking....Transform your Life

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Evaluate your blindspots!

Half the work that is done in this world is to make things appear what they are not!!
-E.R.Beadle

 

The planet Neptune never failed to intrigue me.I personally believe no trait is good or bad, its the situation that make them so.It depends on the personal perceptions also.

Even if its not afflicted ,still it can produce some limiting situations for us.
You can take How strong is your Neptune test from Donna's Blog.This post has also an introduction about true neptunian characters.

Neptune is the eighth and farthest planet from the Sun in the Solar System. It is the fourth-largest planet by diameter and the third-largest by mass. Because of its great distance from the Sun, Neptune's outer atmosphere is one of the coldest places in the Solar System, with temperatures at its cloud tops approaching −218 °C (55 K).Its Gas Gient.

This mysterious planet can create a lot of confusion in native’s life as well as it can bless us with  creativity or imagination.But if this planet is afflicted in a chart it can produce some bad results too.So wherever our natal Neptune resides it affects that house .

Some well known Neptune traits are impressioanlble, dependency,gullible,vague,sensitivity,tendency towards day dream,deceitful, too trusting,boundaries issues,codependency ,victim-savior mentality.But in my opinion the most unique trait of Neptune is to create a BLINDSPOT where it resides.This means it keeps us away form the reality.often we see things through the rose tinted glass,or the way we want to see them.This is nothing but self-undoing or sabotaging ourselves.We have to guard against this self-deception.This world is full of traps where we often get tangled up but we should always be in a clear terms with ourselves.

Here I would like to take you to the Donna’s blog,where she has posted few very valuable articles on Neptune.In order to know your Neptune and where you stand with it,you should consult these  articles.

22 articles on Neptune.

VICTIM mentality :"Like all Neptunians, the unevolved type has a grand dream, but dwells in fantasy, confusing the vision with the manifestation as though it were already so. Rather than working diligently, these dreamers have a million excuses for why the Great American Novel never got written or why that call from Hollywood never came. They blame all those others who didn’t understand or support them.

Unevolved Neptunians regard themselves as victims, helpless to better their situation. They surrender their power to others or to their addictions, health problems, overwhelming life obstacles, or self-defeating patterns. They tend to be in denial about what is going on in such situations, blaming others for their difficulties rather than taking responsibility for their own actions and choices. They act out the victim role, forever looking for that knight in shining armor to rescue them or lift them out of their too-tedious reality"

"CODEPENDENCY: it is an addiction to an addict or to some other ­person. The obsession with trying to help or change that ­individual grows in strength until it takes over your life,­ giving you no peace. It doesn't change just because that person ­leaves, but instead can become a pattern carried over to new ­relationships. Melody Beattie, in her best-seller, Codependent No ­More, defined it in this way: "A codependent is one who has let­ another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed­ with controlling that person's behavior"

1) Codependent people will hide or even change their identity­ and feelings in  order to please and be close to others.

2) A sense of responsibility for meeting other people's needs comes first for codependents, even at the expense of their own needs. 

3) Low self-esteem and very little sense of self to begin with is common to most codependents.

4) Compulsions and addictions drive codependents and keep them from having to confront their deeper feelings.

5) Just like alcoholics and other addictive personalities, codependents hide behind denial and have a distorted­  relationship to will power."

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Donna-cunnhgam.

Another trait of Neptune is ESCAPISM.These people often take an escape route when confronted with reality.They just tend to avoid some anxiety buried in the subconscious.But if they don't face this anxiety-provoking issue and take initiative to mitigate this problem,this can become a trouble.They often look for an easy way-out.Over active imagination also dont let them deal with their reality or self examination.Thats why often their dreams and goals don't become their reality.it leads to heart-ache.They should believe that most part of the life is based on cause and effect principle.Facing life will eventually give these people more control over their life.

So lets Take these Quizes
codependacy quiz 
Boundary Quiz

Some Attitudes.....

if you dont have the competitive  advantage, dont compete.
-Jack Welch

 if you are interested,you will do what convenient , if your are committed,you will do what ever it takes.
-John Assaraf

its always impossible until its done
-Anonymous

life is not a matter of holding good cards but some times playing a poor hand well.
-Jack London

if you dont like something ,change it.if you cant change it , change your attitude.
-Maya Angelou

Tough time never last, tough people do.
-Robert Schuller
 

Entrepreneur Quotes

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these are some quotes from my collections, dedicated to all wanna-be entrepreneurs out there....

whatever you are thinking think bigger.
-Tony Hsieh

you got to getup every morning with determination if you are going to go to bed with satisfaction.
-George Lorimer

its never too late to be who you might have been.
-G.Elliot

when you innovate you 've got to be prepared for people telling you that you are nuts.
-Larry  Elisson,Founder of Oracle

the middle of every successful project looks like a disaster .
-Rosabeth Moss kanter

if you dont have the competitive  advantage, dont compete.
-Jack Welch

you have to learn the rules of the game,and you have to play better than anyone else.
-Albert Einstein

if you are interested,you will do what convenient , if your are committed,you will do what ever it takes.
-John Assaraf

its always impossible until its done
-Anonymous

life is not a matter of holding good cards but some times playing a poor hand well.
-Jack London

go confidently towards your dreams,live the life you have imagined.
-H.D.Thoreau

nobody who ever gave his best regretted it.
-George Hala

whenever you see a successful business ,someone once made a courageous decision.
P.Drucker

Self-Help Quotes

failure is success if we learn from it.
-Malcolm Forbes

Dreams are illustrations from the book your soul is writing about you.
-Marsha Norman

Faith is taking the first step even when you dont see the whole staircase.
-Martin Luther King Jr

if you dont like something ,change it.if you cant change it , change your attitude.
-Maya Angelou

the best way to predict the future is to create it.
- P.Drucker

All life is an experiment.The more experiment you make the better.
-Ralph .W.Emerson

its not length of your life,but your depth of your life.
-R.W.Emerson

Tough time never last, tough people do.
-Robert Schuller

Faith is a passionate intuition.
-William Wordsworth

believe in yourself and there will come a day when others will have no choice but to believe with you.
-Cynthia Karsey.

Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken

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House Number

Most people are aware of the importance of a good business address but not many are aware that your house number can have an effect on the structure and its occupants, too.   

As you will read below, the vibrations of a house or apartment and apartment building can have an effect on how a life is lived within those confines. Even hotel and motel room numbers can have a vibration that correlates with what goes on behind the closed doors.  For example, the hotel room that snagged Ex-Governor Eliot Spitzer in his extra-marital tryst was the number 871 which reduces to the number 16/7 (8+7+1 = 16 and 1+6 = 7) which I call the “shake-down” number, meaning it has the potential of tearing down and taking away most everything the individual(s) inhabiting that room deem of value in their lives, thereby ultimately bringing him and/or her to a new and usually better plateau in their life -- once all the debris from the shake down settles.  It appears that Mr. Spitzer, at least, is a benefactor of a “better” outcome.

When analyzing your home address, it is important that you consider your day of birth (i.e., the 1^st, 15^th, etc.) and the "destiny" number (the full addition of your birth date reduced to a single digit.  Example:  Birth date 11-30-1964 = 1+1+3+0+1+9+6+4 = 25 and 2 + 5 = 7), as well as those of others who will be residing in the home. One or more people who live in your home may have the same day of birth number or destiny number as the house and, in that case, they should feel more comfortable and personally aligned with that house's vibration than those who don't have a matching number.

WHAT YOUR HOUSE NUMBER REVEALS

According to the science of numerology, the numbers found in your home address have vibrations (like your birth date) and those number vibrations attract specific personalities and circumstances to a house.

The "primary" house number is found by adding together, and reducing to a single digit, all the numbers in your house address. For example, if your house number is 2478, you would add 2 + 4 + 7 + 8 which equals 21 and then reduce the 21 to the single digit 3 (2 + 1 = 3).  Three is the "primary" house number for 2478. Another example: House number 10: 1 + 0 = 1. The "primary" house number for 10 is 1.

Once you have determined your "primary" house number, locate it below and learn the about the number vibration qualities and characteristics associated with your home.

1:  Number 1 is associated with power, independence, originality, innovativeness, dynamism, and leadership.  Those attracted to a number 1 house tend to be individualistic, independent, self-reliant and progressive. The "1" vibration inspires originality, innovativeness, and creativity. Many peculiar circumstances take place behind the doors of a "1" home. New acquaintances/friendships can come and go very quickly. People in the professions, i.e., lawyers, professors, doctors, tend to gravitate to the number 1 home. The dwellers of this home tend to be fastidious and precise in their confines and occupations, or domestically lackadaisical and not at all concerned with details and finesse. Therefore, the condition of the "1" house is either very well kept or disheveled and even dilapidated.  The famous or infamous, along with the avant-guard, often frequent the "1" house making it a topic of conversation and curiosity for the neighbors.

2:  Number 2 is associated with cooperation, diplomacy, courteousness, hospitality, harmony, and altruism.  The inhabitants of this house are usually socially refined, home-loving people, who are nurturing, hospitable, generous and enjoy entertaining. They may have a constant stream of people coming and going from their home – liken to a boardinghouse. The "2" is a people-oriented number and often attracts occupants who are involved in businesses associated with food, human and animal comforts, and entertainment.  Doctors, nurses, and other medical and service-oriented practitioners are also attracted to the 2 environs. Two house dwellers are also the most likely to bring their work home or actually work out of their home. The "2" building is usually very solid and the surroundings kept in an inviting, environmentally appealing condition, usually boasting flowers and other types of foliage and fauna around and about the grounds.

3:  Number 3 is associated with eloquence, creativity, good taste, graciousness, welcoming, and entertainment.  The owners of a 3 house tend to add rooms, knock out walls to enlarge and make way for more space, ad infinitum. This house usually attracts cheerful inhabitants who are risk-takers, extravagant, impulsive, and sometimes scattered. Highly imaginative, creative, spiritually-inclined individuals are other qualities inherent in the dwellers of a number "3" home. Luck, good fortune, and romance are a few of the beneficial factors that can enhance the lives of the number 3 home dwellers. The 3 also attracts people who especially enjoy the arts and entertaining and the inhabitants can be the quintessential hosts and hostesses.  On the downside, there may be too much entertaining in a number 3 house, because it can attract those who readily succumb to all the physical temptations which can lead to one or more of the inhabitants being unfaithful, dishonest and overindulgence. This house is usually kept in immaculate condition or its environs are very cluttered and full of collectibles or a menagerie of odds and ends.

4:  Number 4 is associated with convention, dependability, industriousness, discipline, integrity, organization, and trustworthiness.  Four is a number of practicality and stability. This numbered home’s inhabitants are usually conscientious, good citizen types who garner respect from their neighbors and the community because of the careful manicured, orderly and kempt home. Many people who move into a "4" house undergo major personality transformations, sometimes not for the better.  As an example, a sensitive, gentle person may become combative and defensive under the number 4 vibration. Or, on the positive side, a cantankerous individual may become more peaceful and amiable. Frequent personality clashes and internal conflicts occur among the inhabitants under the influence of the "4" because the 4 is also the number associated with contrarians. People who inhabit a "4" home are most likely dedicated, and hard-working, they tend to lean toward being laid-back and even lazy in the confines of their own home. The "4" house may have continuous structural problems and have damage coming from cracked walls and ceilings or sinking foundations, many times caused by shifts in the ground beneath them.  A potential purchaser of a number 4 house should carefully investigate the foundation.

5:  The number 5 is associated with sociability, enthusiasm, energy and speed, free-thinking, individuality, and resourcefulness.  Progressive, broad-minded, energetic and active people inhabit the 5 house. These inhabitants usually have many irons in the fire and a plethora of projects, athletic endeavors, hobbies or crafts to ensure they never get bored or become idle. The 5 home is a place where groups gather to exchange ideas and engage in lengthy political, philosophical and religious conversations. Its inhabitants may, in fact, have an "open door" policy where people can drop in anytime. Its dwellers/owners tend to come and go and if it is rented, it may be hard to keep tenants for any long length of time. Impatience and haste are byproducts of this environment and the atmosphere is usually not conducive to anyone who is high-strung, nervous or, on the other hand, reserved and private. Physically, this house usually has features that require less effort to maintain it in good condition and it usually has a sturdy structure.  Five homes can get in disarrayed condition quickly, primarily due to the constant comings and goings of its inhabitants. It can seem as though there are always things to pick up and put away in a 5 house.

6:  The number 6 is associated with accountability, responsibility, consideration, humanitarianism, and romance.  Love, beauty and harmony are the qualities associated with the number 6 and therefore many sensitive, artistic types gravitate to this numbered home. This is the type of home that could be the newlyweds' first house or a love nest for retirees, or a wholesome family dwelling. Most who live in 6 houses are family-oriented individuals who are good neighbors and usually show a strong interest in community affairs. In fact, they often lead volunteer missions for bettering the community. People who live in 6 houses have a love for procreation and usually enjoy gardening and working the landscape. Children, animals, plants and walls lined with family pictures may be found in ample supply in the 6 home's comfy confines. The law and civic justice may play a significant role in this home, either as the profession of an occupant or, in the worst case, for less noble reasons. The negative side of the 6 (especially if the house or apartment is a number 15) can create an atmosphere of family dissension, discord and disharmony among its inhabitants.  The 6 house structure is usually kept in good condition by its inhabitants.  On the other hand, because its inhabitants are sometimes over-doers, they will let the home repair needs go. 

7:  The number 7 is associated with broad-mindedness, enlightenment, idealism, ingenuity, peace, and wisdom.  Refined, quiet individuals such as educators, scientists and writers are attracted to number 7 homes. These dwellers are also prone to being perfectionists and individuals who are constantly on a quest for self-improvement or self-realization. Individuals who chase rainbows and who may have some difficulty separating reality from fantasy are also attracted to the number 7 home. A significant amount of alone time is usually necessary for the inhabitants of number 7, which can also influence the separation and isolation of the occupants through personal loss or by them being overtly inhospitable. This house may appear larger or smaller than it actually is from the outside and repairs are a constant theme of a 7 house.  Often there is a leaky room that defies repair or its owners are hampered by constant sewer and drainage problems.

8:  The number 8 is associated with authority, courage, dignity, good judgment, leadership, fame and money.  This is the home of achievers who sometimes take life too seriously. The number 8 home is usually stable and solid. The interior décor can be elegant and minimalist or ultramodern, bordering on austerity.  The yard is well-manicured and the grounds kept in kempt condition. People in the professions or who have attained a certain degree of self-mastery tend to inhabit these confines. Business, money, career advancement, and being involved in high society are the kinds of interests and concerns of the "8" home dwellers. The number 8 home has a luck feature that portends the value of an 8 house will always increase -- usually much more than comparable homes in the neighborhood.  The inhabitants of an 8 home may also experience increases in their personal wealth while residing under this auspicious number vibration. These increases can come through windfalls, inheritances, career elevation, or just plain old good luck. If the 8 house is a seasoned structure, its primary problems will concern the drainage and heating systems.

9:  The Number 9 is associated with altruism, compassion, devotion, graciousness, modesty, and culture.  Conservative, cultured, humanitarian people who may be involved in volunteer or charity work gravitate to the number 9.  They are lovers of arts, the theater, beauty and philanthropy and their presence is usually positive for the neighborhood.  They take pride in their home confines and surroundings, maintaining a well-manicured front lawn and other appealing features. Impatient action-takers, prone to burning their candles at both ends also gravitate to 9 homes.  The number 9 is ruled by Mars and therefore there can be some very heated arguments behind those closed doors, but the neighbors will never know.  People in 9 homes are loath to have their dirty laundry aired.  The house structure may have many big and small rooms, is kept in good condition and usually boasts a large or small garden. The heating system can cause problems and certain parts of the house may be difficult to cool down or heat up during the different seasons.

0:  If the zero is present in the number on a home it bestows divine inspiration, divine protection and divine guidance, so feel blessed if your home has one or more zeros in its number. 

The following offers the meanings (positive and not-so-positive) of each individual number in a house number.  For example, if a house address is 2819, each number indicates that the inhabitants are wholesome, nurturing and neighborly (2), educated or classy with an eye for quality (8), possess an independent nature - perhaps being self-employed (1), and have a desire to help others with compassion for the whole world (9). The overall 20 (2+8+1+9 = 20) indicates a home that would have a welcome mat at the door and its inhabitants are sociable and enjoy entertaining. The number 20 is associated with “enlightenment” and therefore the spiritually inclined will also be attracted to this house number.

-Sally Faubion

Saturn in Scorpio - A victim of swindle in a past life

    In a past life you were too open and honest with others and people did take advantage. You never thought about keeping secrets and those with more devious personalities found it easy to get information from you. You may have suffered in some way because of this.

    That's why in this life you are more cautious, careful and even suspicious of other people's motives. You would need to know everything about someone before you let down your guard and trusted them with confidential information. You are serious in your endeavours and you will put a lot of effort into achieving your aims. You don't like wasting time. You don't like wasting money and this is all because in a past life you may have put a lot of effort into certain goals, only for someone else to get all the credit. Or you may have mixed with materialistic people who could spend and spend without having to think about the cost.

When Personal Tragedy Comes

Greetings

"Life's tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late" 

Nobody in this World can tell that they have escaped tragedy.Everybody ,in some point of time has faced it.But often we don't understand how to get it over with or how to deal with it on our own.Personal tragedies can be of various types ,including losings a job or partner.Often there are few tragic incidents which we cant share with people.It eats us silently.Its said that time is a great healer.But when tragedy strikes we are left so hurt and confused that waiting to be get healed naturally  is out of question.We need to take some measures which will help it heal faster.

So don't suffer silently.I would like to share few words of  M.R.Kopmeyer on this.

"ADMIT
you must admit that tragic loss has happened.There must be temporary relief in dumb disbelief.But the anesthesia of disbelief wares off in confrontation with fact and encourages withdrawal from reality in vain attempt to sustain escape.

There are mental danger in playing make-believe with tragedy.Its better to face tragedy frankly,squarely ,honestly.There is relief and strength in the courage to meet reality boldly and openly ,to Admit that waht is so ,Is so.

Only when you have taken the first step, admit ,is it possible to obtain the merciful relief of the next step toward peace of mind and spirit.

ACCEPT
By fully admitting your tragic loss,you open the way to what probably is the greatest and most rewarding of all mental ,emotional and spiritual powers: ACCEPTANCE.

Acceptance if the inevitable is one of the man kind's greatest achievements,In recognizing the human in ability to control all circumstances,Acceptance ,gives man mastery over the consequences of those events he can not control.

and so with personal tragedy.Complete ACCEPTANCE of it --with humility and submission-quietly ,but surely,gives you mastery of survival and inner resources to deal with whatever consequences may result.

No one is given a burden without ,at the same time , being given the strength to bear it.

Willingness to Accept the inevitable misfortunes in life transcends almost every other human power.Its useless to fight the inevitable or to reject it or curse it."..

"it is so,It cant be otherwise"

We can deal with such finality only through acceptance as philosopher William James advised - Be willing to have it so,Acceptance of what has happened is the first step of overcoming the consequence of any misfortune.


ADAPT
This gives  validity to admitting and accepting -it is the 3rd dimension which imparts substance ,otherwise there remains only one passive state of mind, helpful as that is ,but noting more.

..the ego-involvement in making whatever changes are necessary to adjust completely to all of the circumstances  of your misfortune, which excludes the imminent possibility of withdrawal.You must be come willing and totally involved in what ever adjustment are necessary, because withdrawal from reality soon becomes a severe mental illness

Adapting must come from within.your adjustment should be total and it must be yours.It must bear the hallmark of your courage ,your determination ,your decision.

ACT

The ultimate achievement in dealing with consequence of tragedy is to act at once leaving the door which fate forever closed and actively seeking the open door which faith promises ."Seek and ye shall find"

.....you must seek your own channel of activity .. find your own cause...and then put your own entair self to it.. and mental and physical work will relieve and replace emotional tension ,anxiety and grief.

The power is provided by the very act of your doing because the law of life that ,if you act in faiths as you do the thing ,you will receive the power

Thus your capability to survive and then surmount personal tragedy finds its power-source in your consummate faith that you are a part of infinity which being total perfection, can harbor no problems -including yours and so , with unlimited resource, absolves your problems when you have the wisdom and faith to release them."

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Weakness of attitude is weakness of character-A.Einstein

Habit-change

The nature of man is always the same ;its their habits that separates them- Confucius

To day I wish to write about habit..and I know it’s one of the most heaviest word in the dictionary..because

“Good habit s,once established are just as hard to break as bad habits”-Robert Puller

Why this is unbreakable both ways?how it gets so powerful?

Because when we form a habit ,good or bad,it sinks down into different layers of mental,physical and vital parts .By this way it becomes a second nature ,just like an instinct.Every man has to go trough this habit-channels, when ever they are trying to establish a habit.

Good habits are always good ,but bad habits are as diverse as people’s personalities.Alan Strathman, Phd of University of Missouri and his colleagues discovered that we have different degrees of “future Orientation”,Which means preference for delayed consequence, since most of the decision-making process that sustains bad habit focuses on  the present rather than future ,people with a poor future orientation struggle more with bad habits.

We all want to change our bad habits.

5 most important steps are

Precontemplation (the person sees no need to change)

Contemplation ( the person recognizes the problem)

Preparation( the person plans for change but tomorrow)

Action

Maintenance (the person continues the new ,positive behavior for more than 6 months)

But most importantly we need to change our attitude,in order to be successful in habit-changing mission.if you ever backslide don’t label yourself a failure.Some would say “oh I am lazy”.wrong!!actually people don’t understand how to go about it properly.its not will power that is needed to change our habit,but understanding.

taken from the book of S.R.Khan

Attitude First

Venus Guiding Planet

Venus Guiding Planet



You are very concerned with how others value you and all that you do. As a Venus Skill Symbol person, you may feel impelled to leave a personal impression on all you touch, hoping others will recognize, accept, value and praise your originality or worthiness. Your special skills are those requiring artistry, perception, personal charm and grace, evaluation and judgment. In meeting the demands of daily life, you do well when maintaining your emotional cool and relying on your intuition and judgment in seeking a creative solution.
With Venus as your Guiding Planet, you do well when you allow your instincts and personal values guide you through practical life. Yet at times there may be a conflict between the preservation of your personal values and a need to be praised and treated as someone special, especially when material rewards, comfort, security and luxury figure as incentives.
To achieve happiness, you need be especially careful concerning career, employment and personal relationships. Just any job won't do — your high expectations and sensitivity to criticism, combined with a need for creative expression and a desire to be appreciated and praised, may place you at odds with a conventional career. If you feel frustrated with your current career, a change to a career requiring creativity, judgment or evaluation may be the remedy. Similarly with your choice of companionship and mates. You need to be appreciated and loved, praised and respected, by those closest to you. Because Venus is the first planet within earth’s orbit, in astrology it symbolizes all inwardly directed energies and activities, and in today’s intensely self-centered society, it may be too easy for the Oriental Venus person to slip into the self-absorption of narcissism — the "it’s all about me" syndrome. So, appreciation of others and the development of social graces should go hand-in-hand with self-respect and self-worth.

It’s no surprise that Venus Oriental figures in the birth-charts of many artists in search of new artistic values and ideals, even though their individual styles and biographies often differ radically. Vincent van Gogh, Pablo Picasso and Salvador Dali all have Venus as Skill Symbol. In the instance of van Gogh, the Sun is unaspected, with Venus in close conjunction with Mars. Picasso’s natal chart features Venus in Libra, rising well before a Scorpio Sun, septile Mercury rising well after the Sun. The birth-chart of Dali shows Sun and Venus in Taurus, with Moon at the Midheaven, revealing an artist with an intense need to be "original" and earn vast sums of money to satisfy an avaricious wife. Modern artist Joan Miro was born with Venus Oriental very close to the north lunar node and the Sun. Here Venus is perhaps overshadowed by the Sun, with some the Guiding Planet’s attributes shifted to Mercury, which rises twenty degrees before Venus. And, indeed, Miro’s work has a fluid Mercurial quality and his approach is distinctly mental, even if, in a sense, surreal.
Venus Oriental also figures in the birth charts of poets and writers dealing with issues of art, values, culture and society. Joseph Campbell’s birth-chart has Venus Oriental, trine Neptune in the ninth house and bi-quintile Moon in the tenth house. Poet Arthur Rimbaud has the Sun and Venus Oriental in Libra, and poet, social satirist and wit Oscar Wilde was also born with the Sun and Venus Oriental in Libra. Venus Oriental is also seen in the charts of "macho men," such as Ernest Hemingway. Pornographer Larry Flynt has Venus Oriental close to a Scorpio Sun, with Mars, also in Scorpio, rising five-degrees before Venus — a revealing configuration. Yasir Arafat, the leader of the Palestinian people, has Venus Oriental rising forty-one degrees before the Sun, and it is very near Pluto and close to the Ascendant, suggesting his total dedication and identification with the values and needs of his people.
A number of women who have made their way as original, creative and independent voices in the world were born when Venus was Oriental. The natal chart of singer Alanis Morissette features Venus in Taurus (an excellent symbol for a vocalist) rising thirty-nine degrees before her Gemini Sun. The exact opposition between her natal Moon in the second degree of Scorpio and Venus Oriental seems to express itself well through her edgy lyrics portraying female angst unleashed. Women of rock Chrissie Hydne and Courtney Love were both born when Venus retrograde was Oriental. Chrissie’s Venus forms a bi-quintile aspect to Jupiter, and Courtney’s Venus forms a bi-quintile to Neptune in the first house.

aries point

Aries Point=Sun/Moon - emphasizing powerful relationships, relating powerfully, publically.

Oh, the Vertex, what a game–he’s hiding all the cards.
The Vertex is in charge of finding treasure in the dark,
And watching over lucky clover–isn’t that bizarre?
Every little thing the Vertex does
Leaves you answered with a question mark. (“The Reflex”—Duran Duran)

Virgo: In this lifetime, the individual will be drawn to provide a service which brings something to a practical, useful order. Since the anti-vertex is in Pisces, the individual already understands and has experienced confusion but now you must learn to bring order out of chaos. Remember, Virgo rules useful service, not servitude. One client has this Vertex in the 7th and she is an accountant, working on the financial chaos of others.

In the seventh/first house axis, sudden epiphanies could radically effect socially significant partnerships (seventh house) through an experience of projecting ourselves out into the world (first house).

Your spirit is lit up when exposed to knowledge, far-reaching concepts, spiritual questing. You're able to spontaneously follow your innate sense of what's the next step, and often that means taking a big leap of faith. You shine when challenging yourself to grow both physically and intellectually. Travel opens up doors of knowledge, and can renew your faith, infusing it with color and sense of possibility. You're born under a Lucky Star with Jupiter in its natural sign, and might find that good stuff -- especially related to your destiny -- comes your way. Your gifts are well channeled into horse-related fields, being an explorer, globetrotter, expansive studies in fields like archeology, art and spiritual expression across the world, competitive sport challenges, special feats that require you to find endurance from within

12th house cusp

When CAPRICORN rules the natal twelfth house, there may be a pronounced tendency to allow temporary failures, disappointments, and setbacks to become more or less permanent in that you fail to keep going and may not realize much real success in life. There can develop a pattern of starting after some goal or objective of importance, meeting resistance, and then giving up -- all the while declaring that there is no need to try anything else because one failure or disappointment is a certain guarantee of another, and still others. One with this configuration would do well to learn the true meaning of the oft-repeated saying: "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again." Persistence with faith and a positive mental and emotional attitude is the "genie" that you must unshackle.

Depending on the aspects of the ruling Saturn, this placement can serve to provide what is a very deep-seated sense of responsibility, or it may produce a realistic elusion that you are constantly swimming upstream.

If Capricorn is on the 12th house cusp, you are likely to inhibit and ignore you inner urges, and could even be paranoid. You need to reconcile yourself with those parts of yourself which you have cut yourself off from. People with this cusp overlay are usually Aquarius Rising, and are more conservative than they like to admit. Although they’re sometimes limited by unconscious fears, their hidden strength is the discipline that enables them to work hard behind the scenes. They can be trusted with secrets, and they often work on secret projects.

Capricorn on the cusp of the Twelfth House: There is a need and often the ability to perceive who holds the real power in any social situation when the Mountain Goat occupies this position in the natal chart. The individual is made frequently uncomfortable by the thought that people or circumstances beyond his control may suppress his personal influence. Indeed, this position could be said to express the idea: To control or not to control, that is the question? As a result, Capricorn on the Twelfth can be highly manipulative. On the other hand, this sign/cusp combination can be a rich source of hidden wealth and resources. It may indicate a person who has mastered the art of creating those inner structures that help to create businesses, social services, and material benefits for oneself and others. An examination of Saturn is essential to a greater understanding of the implications of this position. This is especially true of the interchange between Saturn and Neptune. When this is positive, the person has the ability to free oneself from limitations and restrictions but when negative, there is the tendency to create a great deal of confusion for oneself.

your Heart's Desire is 8

You want success in its fullest meaning -- wealth, power, and material comforts. You have an enormous ambition. You dream of big projects, great undertakings, and rewards.

You are a visionary. You see the horizon and the promise. In general, you also see the methods necessary to fulfill that promise. But you are not especially good with details; you need others to help you deal with the smaller parts of the picture. Your challenge is to make full use of the full spectrum of your abilities, as indicated by your other core numbers. In the same way, you must bring forth the best from others and orchestrate their talents toward the realization of your vision. In short, you must lead by example, demonstrating the standard for commitment, determination, and excellence.

All of this requires effort on your part. You will meet with obstacles and difficulties. Your determination and commitment will be tested. But you have the power to overcome every obstacle you face and accomplish the goal you've set for yourself.

Your task in life is to learn to use power in refined and elevated ways. The expression and use of power is directly related to one's personal evolution. The more primitive uses of power rest with violence and the threat of deprivation. The higher expressions depend upon your capacity to care for and nourish the people and projects in your charge, giving each exactly what is needed at the appropriate time and in appropriate amounts.

You have a creative mind and an unusual approach to business and problem-solving.

You need to cultivate your ability to evaluate others.

It is essential for you to be involved in a project that challenges you and offers the potential for rewards. When you are uninvolved or unoccupied with a worthwhile task, you can become deeply despondent, depressed, and frustrated. You are the perfect example of the old cliche, "Idle hands are the devils workshop." Without a challenge, you can lose balance in life and become selfish, cruel, and even self-destructive. Disappointments become shattering, causing terrible consequences in self-image and self-love.

Perspective is everything for you. You have a natural talent for balancing the spiritual and material planes.