I don't know how many people gets time to evaluate and re-evaluate their values time to time on their own ,but this time I did.And what I discovered was ,MY VALUE=WHAT I AM.Since our childhood every people ,with whom we ever came in to contact, taught us some thing,every experience weather it was bad or joyful taught us something..Then as our world expanded we were again taught directly or indirectly by clubs where we joined , social groups where we volunteered,or collage/ universities where we studied.
By the time we were adults ,we were bombarded with many value systems and opinions from different quarters.We had thought that we have sound values but in reality we never delved in to our core to discover our sets of core values,what makes us "us".
what is value?
"value is what you get"
values are belief , ideas, elements of life that are most important to us. when our values and the way we lead our life is in syncrony ,then only we are truly happy.
If you know your values,then you know yourself, inside out.Its one of the first step any man can take to self-discovery.Our values makes us what we are today.There is a need to understand what our values are because they acts as an internal compus which guides our life to the fulfillment.they shows us the way we ought to choose our life.Its very much action oriented.Values are not "what we say" ,its all about "what we do".what we do with our lives.
Values are psychological elements .We cant see them,but we pursue them throughout our life subconsciously.They plays an important role in determining what type of life style we are going to have .One myth about value is " once values are set, that's it,they don't change",but the truth is "values don't change ,they evolve."
how to know what your values are?
there are lots of "list of values" ,which can be found all over the net.You will find various types of values like work values,social values ,personal values etc.All these are equally important in our life.Recognizing your values from a long list can be tricky.Its common to get confused between our "values" and a " should".
tips:
some of these tips are worth remembering when you are about to find your values.
1.When you consult a list of values or brainstorm about your values, you should remain flexible and open.You will feel as if your were looking for this particular word.It might or might not go with the sets of values you believed that you have.This can give you an important clue of your present or future life.great tool of self discovery!!
2.Look for the values which are similar to "what you do".
3.Look for the values which makes you the happiest.For which your are proud of yourself.Which creates an excitement in your mind .
4.Find out the regrets that you have in your mind Can you think of any thing you wished to do badly,willing to give anything just to get a chance.
5.Does this make you feel good about yourself.
6.Does it sound like"yes,its part of me".
7.Try to observe and take a mental note about the things you are drawn to,indeffernt about ,or repelled by.Then try to find out what are the things that are common in the "drawn-to" cluster,"indifferent-to" cluster or "repelled by" cluster
8.Ask "Why" after every values that you think you have .
9.What are things you are confident about?
10.What gives you a sense of purpose?
11.What relaxes you?
12.What do you visualize or think often?
13.Where do you spend or wish to spend your money most?
14 What gives you energy.
" values provide perspectives in the best of times and the worst"
Values gives us sense of self worth and builds our self esteem. Design your life and work according to your sets of values.this is the only way of getting fulfillment.
"its not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are"
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