Glass Painting :Fruit Tray

Greetings for the day!!

This is my another glass painting project.Hope you will like it.Its actually a serving tray which needs to be framed.

bye

my first cold-porcelain roses

I have seen some of the greatest bolgs on cold-porcelain crafts.It got me inspired to it try out . These are my first cold -porcelain  roses.I know I have a long way to go.I need a lots of practice.feel free to aware me of my mistakes.

thank you.

check this out if you are number 2

“Follow your instincts. That's where true wisdom manifests itself.” -Oprah Winfrey         

In the Numerology life path is the most important number, which is derived from the whole birth date of the native.It can reveal the basic theme of the whole life.Fortunately more and more people are realizing that to discover and follow their life path is the most rewarding thing they can do in their life.It often creats a sense of destiny in our mind.But there are some points to be remembered.Having a life path 2 does not necessarily mean it will manifest in the same manner for all natives.Many factors are involved. such as the other energies that co-exists with the number 2.Most importantly the placement of the number on the  continuum of productivity .

Theme of life:Linking closely.
These people are sensitive,intuitive,supportive,reliable ,peacemaking,compassionate and artistic.

The native having number 2 life path should concentrate on some recommended developments.These people should use their powerful intuitive ability to develop self-confidence.They should  try to be with the people who will understand their unique ability.Its very important for their personal development since they seek close bonding,looks for security and affiliation.They should understand the importance of emotional control.  They tend to take things personally.They will benefit if they develop mental faculties especially their power of deduction and memory.That way Information will replace fears and vacant hopes.Such developments will help them grow their self esteem and provide greater independence.

Graphology : My experience

Greetings for the day

Today I want to share my experience about Graphology ,widely which is known as hand writing analysis.I was ever a curious girl.During a trip to Hyderabad my dad gave me a magazine to pass my time,in the train.There I found an article on Graphology.I could not understand the concept since it was  brief .

Since then I was trying to gather knowledge on Graphology. Either through some magazines- periodicals or through internet.I was bombarded with fascinating concepts and information which left me confused. At last I decided to enroll myself to a popular graphology school.By then I had completed my MBA.At that time I felt it might help me with my job but I did not know that it had the capasity to transform a person.

Its a science where in subconscious mind is represented in black and white on paper showing your thought process.Thought process is a very important thing when it comes to graphology.In  one of my previous post I have discussed it,go to the link below.
surreal spotlight: Psychology and Graphology

Since I was into counselling ,I have been taught "noting is good or bad.....thinking makes it so".This is the very same concept of the graphology.We cant act judgmental.In graphology no trait is good or bad -its the reference that matters.Hand writing analysis was named Graphology during 1533 from the Greek words "graph" and "ology".

You might be interested to find out the history of this science.It was during 330 B.C,the great philosopher Aristotle first anticipated that spoken words are the representation of thought and the written words are the representation of the spoken word.Many evidences shows that Chinese and Japanese monks and Priests used to practice rudimentary handwriting analysis.It was not until 1600 in Europe , primarily in Italy the science of graphology,which had largely remained dormant since ancient time enjoyed a revival.The grand father of modern graphology was J.H Michon who developed formal system of studying hand writing during late 1800s.Since then graphology has been a part of science which even can detect cancer.

application of handwriting analysis is wide spread such as:
to understand personal rapport
Interpersonal relationship e,g parental,marital life and professional relation
recruitment
child development
Criminology
health issues
etc etc


Graphotherapy is now a very popular way of self-improvement through particular but supervised changes in some aspects of the handwriting.I met many people during my study of graphology who  had taken  therapy in their childhood,and  it helped them so much that they had come to learn it thoroughly .At first things were fascinating but once I was able to detect my own flaws of thinking,which was portraying by my hand writings,it got me .How accurate and and how personal it was!!That was not  the end of it.My early family environment,my upbringing pattern all were revealed by my handwriting which were no way anybody could had known.It was not some kind of occult practice ,only science and psychology,used in an unique way.

My flaws in thinking pattern which I picked up from my environments ,personal situations and experience,was sabotaging me.I used to feel stressed, angry earlier which was  now clear to me.To get my self out of those negative thoughts I had to change the way of my handwriting. Initially I used to feel so much of resistance,It has been difficult to unlearn some of the deep rooted,habitual thinking process which I have been carrying with me till that date.The end result is good,I feel less angry,less stressed.Thanks to graphology.I got healed in many areas of my life or at least made conscious.

The saddest part is ,even if its been used in various fields in the every parts of the world but in India its yet to get its due recognition.The evidences derived from handwriting analysis cant be produced in any Indian court.It has no place in the mainstream formal education.

I hope that day will come when people will understand the power of the graphology.

bye.

Boost your MI

"The key to keeping your balance is knowing when you've lost it."-unknown

Few days ago I planned to take a Multiple Intelligence test,just to make sure if my chosen career goes  along with my skills-sets.Its one of the most popular test among teachers and career -counselors. a wonderful way to find out your the most dominant mode of intelligence.You must be thinking , what did I mean by the "most dominant" .

The dictionary meaning of the word Intelligence is:
The ability to acquire and apply knowledge and skills.
it has been found that people have different kinds of intelligence rather than one single mental ability, This theory was introduced by Howard Gardner In the year of 1983.He explored various forms of expressions of intelligence available to cognition.According to him the Multiple Intelligences are:
Musical
Linguistic
Naturalist
logical/mathematical
Interpersonal
Intrapersonal
visual-spatial
body-kisthetic.

A person might be particularly strong in few areas.This will show the strength and weak areas of your Intelligence.Once you understand your weakness,you should work on that area to boost it up.Howard Gardner claims that all MI can be nurtured and strengthen or ignored and weakened.you will find the test from this link below:
here

In my case my Visual-spatial intelligence is most strong.which means I am good with visualizing things.I enjoy reading  and writing,I am good at putting puzzles together,good at interpreting pictures,graphs and charts,I enjoy drawing and painting. visual art,I can recognize patterns easily.My potential careers are : architect,artist ,engineer etc.

the things I have written so far is not unknown. Being good at one field is not bad .It might help you to achieve the highest success .but as the quote in the beginning goes,balance is everything we are struggling to achieve and retain.Anything in extreme will lead us to imbalance and an imbalanced life is never happy.Day in and day out we struggle to be normal. Being a genius in one field of life wont help us solve every problems which will arise from different sectors of the life.Being good at visual-spatial intelligence doesnot mean I don't need to be good at interpersonal skills or mathematical / logical skills.so none of these skills are unimportant when it comes to everyday life.we have to consciously develop these skills which we lack.A bit of concentration and patience will help us excel in the other fields which will at the end make our intelligence strong.we will able to tackle anything with such strong intelligence.

lets see some of the ways we can develop our MI:
Linguistic:
play word games
solve cross word puzzles
read books or magazines daily*
read fairy tales
listen to the language of the songs*
help some one with the writing project
learn new word everyday*
write emails or letters*
try using new words in every conversation*

mathematical
when shopping,try to calculate the bill before cashier
try Sudoku
try maths
avoid using calculators*

visual-spatial
learn how to use computer graphics application
look at the collection of famous photographs and ask your self what has made them famous
tell a story using pictures only
think to redecorate your room, start with drawing the pictures*
design a business card*
learn to paint*
use emoticons in your email*

body -kinesthetic
learn to dance*
try any sport
anything to do with body muscle
exercise*

musical
call friends on their birthday and sing HAPPY BIRTH tune over the phone
sing in the kitchen ,shower,car*
be aware of the immediate enviornment you go*

naturalist
go to zoo
get in to re-using ,recycling garbage
observe color combination in the nature-try to dress according to that color
watch nature show in the television*
visit websites and address's of environmental concern
do something for animals

interpersonal skills
introducing yourself to others
thanks people in stores,banks,wish them a good day*
watch your body language
when you feel emotional try to express it in a non threatening way
learn conflict mediation
communicate non verbally
group discussion

intrapersonal skills
decide a simple rule for today ,end of the week,moth and write it down-achieve it*
random acts of kindness-in helping some one out
do some thing different for yourself(change the hair color,re arrange  the apartment,change a habit)*
be a mentor to some body
read article about self healing or self improvement*
read about  your dream job and be proactive to move towards that*
live in the moment*
spend quite time with your self and think about the the day and what you learnt and what opportunities  you have lost.


* I am practicing these things whenever possible.

"use your head-I did!"

My first READING

Astrology has never failed to amuse and enchant me.It has become a cherished hobby since I was in my 10th grade.My dad gave me a an astrology book while I was enjoying my vacation.Thats how it started.I never got chance to enroll in a certified course on astrology,I am mostly self taught. I could learn what ever I know today ,since I have an undying passion for this subject.It has helped me to uncover many things about myself.If I ever get a chance to get a degree on this ,I will count myself lucky person who has her dream come true.

I met a sweet girl.I was talking about Astrology and she requested me to take a look on her chart.So on this blog I am planning to discuss about her chart with my limited knowledge.I will request to my readers to make  criticism and comment on this attempt of mine.it will enrich and encourage me further.

Read the full interpretation from the links below.

http://surrealspotlight.wordpress.com/2011/09/04/42/ part1

http://surrealspotlight.wordpress.com/2011/09/09/life-is-still-good-2/ part 2

http://surrealspotlight.wordpress.com/2011/09/09/life-is-still-good-3/ part 3

Mission:Win-Win

The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people half way-Henry Boyle






In this festive time of the year I went to our local bargain market for some profitable deals.As usual the place was crowded and everybody was looking for the best deals .But a good bargain is not every body's cup of tea,it needs skills and practice, that's what I came to know .More over the bargain market was not at all a good place to try negotiation skills since everybody was battling to gain their own end.

The dictionary meaning of the negotiation skill is : "mutual discussion and arrangement of terms of transaction or agreement".So its clear that negotiation skill is a win-win situation which includes mutual discussions.On my way back home ,I was thinking ,negotiation is a most important truth of our lives.In this small world with even smaller resources,we are continuously negotiating one thing with another in order to live.we are not even aware of it.If we pay a little more attention to this much required skill,then we will not only gain but we might be able to help others to gain too. Because negotiation is a win -win game.We just cant have all for our selves.

There are few very simple rules of successful negotiation.It can be learnt.

Know the person
You will need somebody to negotiate with.So know your opponent first.A general sincere conversation can help you build rapport with him/her. you will find information on how to build a successful rapport in this link. Importance of RAPPORT
If you  are going to deal with a person who is quite hostile with you for any reason ,then you better be "Button-Proof".What I mean is do not take his/her angry insulting remarks or outbursts personally.We need to understand that something is bothering this person and he /she is suffering from that cause.




Understand the challenge
Next you need to understand the challenge or the topic on which you are ready to negotiate.In his step we should ask relevant questions.Listen actively. Do not forget to set limits , about how much you can afford to loose.This is important.


Alternatives
Its imperative to seek out different alternatives to solve the problem.This will open up new ways for the negotiation. Create alternative workable plans.This will add value to the negotiation process.The thing to remember is,in order to make our opponent  buy the alternatives, we should include  their point of view and and needs.Its a two way process .


Adding structure
To make the process successful we might need to add some structure to shape it.Only discussion over a cup of coffee might not be enough for many topics.Here we might need to set a location,day,time,set objectives,if the 3rd party opinion should be included,rules to abide etc.




Behavior
when the real time comes,some must-have qualities we need to remember those are:
empathy,striving to achieve win-win situation, maintaining  eye contact,being careful with vocal tone,body language,calmness,non-aggressive attitude.Satisfaction should be the main goal.The best negotiators are patient.They never hurries up or nurture any presumptions or gets to the conclusion first.

A miser and a liar bargain quickly.
Greek Proverb




Dealing objections
Objection is a vital part.Either we face it or we make it.There are 3 types of objections-Real,False,Underlying.
The more patient and the more questions you ask,you can solve this problem ,in case you face it.


Gender
Another vital part that are often ignored by the parties that negotiates,which is sex-difference.Men and women communicate differently.Men are more goal oriented and independent.They focus on their power over the other party.Men tend to avoid emotional questions.Men often use put-down remarks and insults, especially when communicating with another man,which is a macho thing.Men are issue-minded.On the other hand  women are more emotional and intimate.women are open with emotional issues,they can be chatty.They want  be pleasant and wants to be treated nicely.They are feeling-minded.

Women offer  subtle clues,which often men fail  to pick up.women want to set rules by emotion and feelings.They pick up clues from indirect conversation more skillfully.They often expect men to do the same. whereas Men are  more direct in their approach.

Silence is another important factor which cant be overlooked.Men are often silent when they work out a plan in their mind.on the other hand women goes in to a silent -mode when they have lost trust or annoyed.

so next time you need to buy or sale something or even going to meet your boss to discuss pay-hike,you better mind these tips.

have a nice day.