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How to deal: Ascendent Square Mercury

Hello !!

This is the 3rd part of "ascendent square.." series.Mercury is the next planet in the hierarchy.Square is a hard aspect and by dealing it with persistent effort and hard work you can not only deal with it but you might give shape to some of the talents which you already have .Hard aspect are boon in disguise of painful inner conflict.People just need to structure themselves in order to reap the full potential.

lets begin.
1.Make sure what ever you are saying are in harmony with your body language.You can find that out by observing yourself in a mirror and then practice in front of a mirror (if there is a large difference between these two things)

2.try to be sincere when you are praising, flattering or criticizing people. if you give them sincere praises and constructive criticism then you will be able to win people for real.

3.learn to relax ,specially when you are about to meet people or a potential mate.take a deep breath ,and try to collect your thoughts.

4.try meditation,yoga,physical exercise in order to control nervous energy.

5.avoid talking about every problem you face , with your partner or anybody you find- people might think you are un-smart.

6.before saying something ,be sure what you want to say.construct the sentences in your mind first then say it confidently so wont have to repeat again.

7.you might feel that you need to do a lot of hard work in order to catch up with other people --- you are right!!just use hard worker,honesty,positivity with it.when you will be successful on your own right you will become more confident,not jealous!!

8.ask other people to believe in what ever you say -verbally.

9.organize your affair ,keep a to-do list ,or an organizer can help you.

10.this energy can make you avoid large gathering or crowd due to your communication failure. Join some small groups or workshops ,educational class,start writing,forum.which will help you to structure your expression.

11.listen others and polish up your conversation skills. be tactful,diplomatic. polite.

12.use your ideas practically, use your curiosity positively,you can become a good researcher or investigator,use your broad range of knowledge to teach or in journalism.
you have knowledge of current trends.you can become a sales man too.

13.if you are shy and soft spoken,make sure other people doesn't bully you or twist your words,make sure you can put across ideas correctly.


tips
1.you are your own worst critic..you are damaging your own self respect and confidence.Try to trust in you abilities.
2.try not to compare your accomplishment with your peer.
3.be specific what you want to say.
4.don't expect to be loved by doing favor to friends or people.
5. develop you creativity.
6.evaluate whether you and your partner are in best mode of communication.
7. stop double message , you may sound unreliable.
8.you phrase things weirdly ( in writing or verbally).
9.don't over indulge in sex.
10.don't talk too much.
hope it helps,until next time..
bye.

memory memorandum!

Hi every one
Recently,I have come across an article,Which has really helped me to ponder about memeory issues.

Our memory makes us who we are,because without a memeory our life may seem blank.Memory is the treasury and guardian of all things.But what if you discover that our memory cant be trusted??

Recent Reseraces has shown that we may have memory of personal events which never happened.We can nurture many false memories -including that , related to mental or sexual abuse.

Researces have shown that false memories can be implanted through suggestive questions,specially which memeory is distant.Let us look in this example:

A number of people who witnessed an road accident a few while back, were asked by a researcher,"How fast were the car going when they smashed in to each other?"
Most of them estimeted the "speed" as the verb"smashed"were used.They will never consider the word "bumped" or "scarched" instead of "smashed". Since they were already influenced by the word "samshed" so they will relate it with the broken glass( as we generally use "smash",to convey the breaking of a glass or window),hence they has described how the headlights were smashed.

Such minor but significant error of memeory could lead in to something worst ,specially when police and lawyer interviewing witnesses.
Cognitive psychologist says many times wrong testimony were given which were born out of false conviction.
As we all know memeory fades,and constantly reacalling experience may cause us to invent incidents to fill in the gaps.It seems the very act of remembering causes memeories to become temporarily flexible-leading to "re-storage" in slightly revised form.

So we can take advantage of it while counselling a stress,anxeity,rape,war-victim even a post traumatic stress patient(PTSD),by replacing their true memeory by a false memory,which will help them to lead a trauma-free peaceful life. After all, "Everybody needs his memories. They keep the wolf of insignificance from the door. ~Saul Bellow"

what do u think?
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