memory memorandum!

Hi every one
Recently,I have come across an article,Which has really helped me to ponder about memeory issues.

Our memory makes us who we are,because without a memeory our life may seem blank.Memory is the treasury and guardian of all things.But what if you discover that our memory cant be trusted??

Recent Reseraces has shown that we may have memory of personal events which never happened.We can nurture many false memories -including that , related to mental or sexual abuse.

Researces have shown that false memories can be implanted through suggestive questions,specially which memeory is distant.Let us look in this example:

A number of people who witnessed an road accident a few while back, were asked by a researcher,"How fast were the car going when they smashed in to each other?"
Most of them estimeted the "speed" as the verb"smashed"were used.They will never consider the word "bumped" or "scarched" instead of "smashed". Since they were already influenced by the word "samshed" so they will relate it with the broken glass( as we generally use "smash",to convey the breaking of a glass or window),hence they has described how the headlights were smashed.

Such minor but significant error of memeory could lead in to something worst ,specially when police and lawyer interviewing witnesses.
Cognitive psychologist says many times wrong testimony were given which were born out of false conviction.
As we all know memeory fades,and constantly reacalling experience may cause us to invent incidents to fill in the gaps.It seems the very act of remembering causes memeories to become temporarily flexible-leading to "re-storage" in slightly revised form.

So we can take advantage of it while counselling a stress,anxeity,rape,war-victim even a post traumatic stress patient(PTSD),by replacing their true memeory by a false memory,which will help them to lead a trauma-free peaceful life. After all, "Everybody needs his memories. They keep the wolf of insignificance from the door. ~Saul Bellow"

what do u think?
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counseling and handwriting Analysis

Today Hand Writting Analysis is a proven method of "READING BETWEEN THE LINES",specially when it comes to understanding psychological state of a given person,in a given moment.

Some people complain that their hand writting keeps on changing ,ofcourse it does- as the people gets more mature day by day.It is said that ,the awareness of self and the environment are mirrored by one's handwritting.

Since it works that way ,a troubled soul can be helped by analysing his/her hand writting.It can give a more precise picture of the trouble at hand,which may or may not be aparent from "description session" during the counselling.

What do you think?

Is it the FACT ,or your OPINION??

hi greetings for the day!!

"We must have strong minds, ready to accept facts as they are."-Harry S Truman

In our daily life we come across many people or situation where the facts and personal opinions get jumbled up together. An aspiring counselor or even a normal person should be able to distinguish between these two. If you are able to do it properly then most of the problems will get a solution, it will become lot more easier to solve problems, which are minor but an inflated opinion has made it gigantic.
While I was having a conversation with a person, he was narrating a story about a retired man who had lost the half of his provident fund through an unwise investment. The exact words of that person were: I have lost my all money by investing unwisely. My family and I will have to live our live in poverty and disgrace, thorough the rest of the life.
Here you can see the man has talked about only one fact, rest of it was his opinion – here the man is making a grave mistake .So accepting your Opinion as the Fact can ruin you!!So by taking just one fact and magnifying it by your opinion , will only send you to a wrong conclusion.
His opinion “My family and I will have to live our live in poverty and disgrace, through the rest of the life.” It’s no way a fact!!
1. Because if he continues to invest unwisely again and again, it might become a reality. From this experience, he should learn a lesson.
2. Losing money in unwise investment is no disgrace—many people get double back what they had lost in an investment.
3. Family living in poverty is ridiculous opinion-he still has half of his money in his hand.
So people should build their life on facts, which can be accurately traced back to their very origin, not on some out of the proportion imagination which is rooted in biased opinions .No preconceived ideas or anxious opinion should take out the beauty of a fact. You can always get back to the source of the fact to double check before making any decision based on that particular fact. Because dependability of a judgment always depends on your ability to separate facts from the opinion ----make the decisions based on FACT.

How to deal natal aspects:Moon Square Asc

All emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up; that emotion is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you. ~Rainer Maria Rilke

Hi Greetings for the day!!
This is my second article of How to deal natal aspects.Its about moon square Asc.

1.First of all,don't feel sorry for yourself for not able to express yourself completely.Remember self pity and insecurity is your poison!!

2.you are very sensitive( towards people and environment) person!!See if you have really got the sufficient reasons to be so sensitive?Don't you think,sometimes you over reacts?---- be realistic.

3.Check out if your inner feelings are in harmony with your attitude /non-verbal reactions/ body language. Give it a second thought.

4.Stop being so emotionally vulnerable or volatile.First you need to focus on your feeling and thought- not on everybody around. Address your need /want/longings(if you don't understand initially what you want,please sit some place quite and then think,then act accordingly).You don't need to get influenced by other people all the time. Here asc is you and moon is need = so in a nutshell its all about your need. Don't resent yourself or your needs.

5.Other senses your sympathetic and nurturing nature and drawn to you- you enjoy a role of care-giver, but you are not sure about your stability.Dont forget to nurture yourself-by good food,by good habit, by forging secure relationships,by doing justice with your emotions.

6.You are impressionable,so don't submit to a powerful personality who wants to mold you according to their plan/choice.Break away from your past,habit or wrong association-then you will be able to develop your own sense of self without some one's approval.

7.You need to change/re-evaluate some habits which has ingrained in you.

8.Your relationship/ family-life can get affected by " don't-know-how-to-express" behavior or your conflicting appearance and thinking.People may find you highly unreliable.When dealing with partner of family you can share your short comings/ limitation to them.In turn mind not to see things from their perspective , without bias or over reactions.

9.Use a wide left margin ,when writing.

10.Cope with people /situations intellectually rather than emotional bias.Know that every people feel internal insecurities - you are not alone.

11.Try to understand your limitations(detect ,when and which situations make you feel over sensitive and make you over reacts,then try to avoid such situations)

TIPS
a.deal with your self consciousness.
b.your feelings/needs/ wants don't have to take second place.
c.take care of your mood-swings.Hard work is needed to control you emotion.
d.you are sensitive towards family and home-make sure it doesn't go out of hand.
e.Don't let people use you or your weakness.
f.Practice detachment for your emotional well being.
g.be precise when communicating/expressing ideas.Don't rely on non-verbal clues.

hope it helps!
Thank you.