How to deal Natal Aspects: Sun square Ascendant

"We are not in a position in which we have nothing to work with. We already have capacities, talents, direction, missions, callings." --Abraham Maslow

Hi
Greetings for the day!!

Square aspect is called a HARD aspect ,because it teaches us about ourselves and our mission but in a HARD way.In order to get full advantage of this HARD ,but character -building aspect,we need to do some HARD work.
Today I want to discuss about some ways by which we can take advantage of this powerful aspect.

1.Nurture your creativity-get involved in activities by which you can "shine".Artistic activities( drama,dance,teaching,leadership) -anything to do with your self,projecting yourself.Become more self expressive.

2.Become more social,go out,have some child-like fun once in a while.Loose the "seriously-trying-too-hard" side of your personality.Share things(ideas,work-load,food,happiness,fun) with others,including spouse.

3.If you have some positive talents or skills -don't let it go waste( by procrastination/insecurities/fear of criticism).Please nurture it, although you are going to need a considerable hard work and positive out look to carry on.Sit in quite place and think about your so far wasted talents.

4.You have a strong impact on people-use it positively.Don't scare people off by being too "bossy".

5.Always respect authority-figures( father,boss,elders),Sincerely.Try to learn from their experience.

6.Be gentle when dealing with spouse,or society in general.Don't fake it!!

7.Try to depend on your best and positive judgement.You don't need to win everybody's approval every time-if you must do it ,do it modestly.

8.Never nurture the feeling of insecurity,lack of confidence,uncertainty.People are not aggressive towards you!!Your perceptions needs to be adjusted.Trust me!

9.Use your energy constructively-never overwork,use cat naps,go for a swim,dance etc.

10.Avoid over spending-you don't need to look "impressive" every time. Let your sincerity impress people.

TIPS:
a. Evaluate you expectation(from yourself and others)once in a two days.
b.Sorry to say,You are not always correct.
Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.-Peter McIntyre
c.don't let your ego,selfish-ness,pride/willfulness work against you or others.
d.don't let your internal conflict side-track you from your goal,which has to be healthy,positive and growth-oriented.
e.Pain is a good motivator-welcome frustration.Digest it.make a deal with your internal conflict.
f.change your attitude( be more open and accepting,compromising)accept the challenges which are thrown at you by the life,turn those in to an opportunity (by stepping away from ego,use some positivity). Commit that you will never quit.
g.give me feed back!!


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How To deal RESENTMENT!!

Greetings for the day, every one!!!
Last night I was talking with a friend of mine. We were discussing about some family problem she had encountered recently-she was looking for good ventilation!
After a much long “description session” I found that she is harboring a deep resentment for one of her family members .As an Counselor cum a close friend, I was eager to help her. This resentment on her part was actually making a “mess “in her family situation and It had become a perpetual cycle of resentment and pent up anger.
Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of your life, they are eating at you - Norman Vincent Peale

On way back to my home ,a much similar experience crossed in my mind. It’s quite normal in this fast era of competition, we get resentments in various forms and shapes from various sources. Is that really mean to forget all the rational thinking and “possessed by it”?
The dictionary-meaning of RESENTMENT is bitterness or indignation.
“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”

Results:
Self-pity: According to some opinion, ”it’s an attempt to excuse our own failure by attributing it to injustice or unfair treatment by those resented. Habitual resentment can turn into self- pity , which is chronic emotional agony which seeks relief in sympathy and servitude of others.”They expect undying gratitude for favors, attentions or services, which they might have rendered others in the past.
Burning Anger, vengeance, hatred: These things escalates day by day, in extreme cases it can manifest itself by murder or insanity.
In such cases a person with such issues should be advised to..
1. learn to avoid resentments.
2. Get rid of all the resentment.
How to deal:
IGNORE IT: Such people ,like my friend, should cultivate ignorance of real or imagined unpleasant past incidents, because past is done!!U can’t change it for anything, so why suffer by re-visiting down the memory lane!
GET TOUGH Emotionally: Just don’t let anybody to humiliate or disturb you emotionally. Dont “bleed” emotionally from every “cut”, because its you who gets hurt. Be too big for resentments.
“Resentment is one burden that is incompatible with your success. Always be the first to forgive; and forgive yourself first always.”
Dan Zadra Quotes

People should have a sympathetic understanding of the person they resent. If this analysis is done honestly and objectively, sometimes it can be discovered that in many cases we start or help resentment to escalate. Another step could be, apologizing directly to that person and talking it out. Don’t forget to mind self-discipline, because it will make sure that same situations wont present itself in future.
Resentment is weak and lowers your self-esteem.
Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head (Quote by - Ann Landers)

So don’t take yourself –or others-too seriously. The unhappy resentments are not worth it!!
There is a wonderful technique I came across in a writing of a success counselor, which goes like this..
Our physical body has a built-in “thermostat” which maintains a body temperature of 98.6 degrees no matter how freezing or hot atmosphere you are in…now we need to visualize an “emotional thermostat” consciously, and it will help us not to response in times of emotional turbulance. Please use this method.